Question for all and sundry about present giving

[lexin]

I've asked my colleagues and they've gone 'hmmmmm', so I turn to you as the founts of all knowledge and wisdom.

The reason behind this question is that I'm confused; my aunts and uncles never gave me presents so the question never arose with me. (This was due to a family contretemps involving my parents which I won't go into here but was labyrinthine.)

But it occurred to me that my nephews are 18 this year and should be each their own man soon. So do I carry on giving them presents at Christmas and birthdays or don't I? I don't know what the rules are here, or even if there are any. I have no intention, btw, of stopping without mentioning it to their parents.

Poll #12772 Presents for nephews

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 14

How old should my nephews be before I stop giving them birthday and Christmas presents?

18
1 (7.1%)

21
0 (0.0%)

working in paid employment
4 (28.6%)

something else I will explain in comments
7 (50.0%)

never stop giving them birthday and Christmas presents
2 (14.3%)

Comments

[starlight2463]

If they are not appreciative of the gifts enough to even thank you than that is your answer. They do not deserve a gift. I do not believe in the giving of gifts as an obligation. One gives a gift when one wishes to do so. You see something someone you care about would love etc.

[lexin]

The lack of thanks does grate, I have to say.